If it’s the thought that counts, I’m super thoughtful. People just don’t know it. Which begs the question, has that adage been wrong all these years? I mean, if I think of sending a card when someone has a loved one pass away, is that the same as sending it? I’ve had people tell me after the fact that they thought about calling me to see how I was doing while I was going through something difficult. I have to say, it didn’t make me feel better knowing they thought about it, but didn’t pick up the phone. The cards I got in the mail, now those made me feel better. The friends offering to help transport my kids to different activities-that touched me.
I can’t judge though, because I do the same thing. I have to admit that there are days in which I am so spent, that even picking up the phone seems like too much. I am thoughtful. It’s just that there is a disconnect between those thoughts and the actual action. It’s the same for a lot of us. So, what’s the problem?
I think sometimes it is. . .(how appropriate-I just had to stop writing to get my baby who woke up) that. Life is just too chaotic and it keeps slipping our minds. Maybe we think they have enough support, and our little act of thoughtfulness won’t mean much. Maybe we don’t want to bother them.
It’s worth thinking about. I wonder who came up with that saying, “It’s the thought that counts.” Was it someone really busy, or lazy, or someone actually pretty thoughtless? I don’t know, but I bet it wasn’t someone going through something very difficult at the time.