Have My Rights-If I Agree With You

I’m going to get a little controversial. I apologize in advance if I offend you, because it seems that no matter how lightly one treads when attempting to discuss a controversial topic, there is almost always offense taken. Here I go.

Parental Rights. Are you still reading? I think about parental rights often. I think a lot of people take them for granted. They think simply, “They are my children. Of course I will decide what is best for them.” It goes without saying that parents (as long as abuse and neglect are not a concern) are the best ones to make the decisions for their children. Or does it? There are definitely people in congress who would disagree. There are a large number of people who think parents need help making educational, medical, and even nutritional decisions for their children. The “it takes a village” idea is being taken to the extreme with things like The Convention on the Rights of the Child (CRC), the various state and federal proposed legislation that is always trying to gain more control of homeschool families, proposed (and passed) stricter mandatory vaccine laws, and we can’t forget all of the “improvements” our First Lady has made with school lunches. Parents are being sent home with letters or being called and told what they can and can’t send in their children’s sack lunches.

The point is not whether or not we agree with all of this. The point is that parental rights are just that: rights. Although I suppose that is up for debate too as I have been told that I don’t have the right to homeschool. It is a privilege afforded me by my government. (We love each other, so we agreed to disagree.) I have seen comments by people that all parents should be forced to vaccinate their children. The question, however, is not whether or not you think kids should be vaccinated. The question is whether or not you would want to be forced to give your child any kind of medical treatment if you were strongly opposed to it and had done the research and had facts and professionals to support your side too. (Please don’t leave me links and comments about how vaccinations are important because I do in fact vaccinate my children.)

It seems that if people agree, they don’t mind their rights being taken away. They don’t care if people have the right to homeschool if they don’t agree with homeschooling. They don’t care if parents are forced to vaccinate if they believe that vaccinations are the only way to go. They don’t care if they are told what to put in their children’s lunches if they believe the healthier food is better for them anyway.

But what happens when they quit agreeing? What happens when it hits home? What happens when our government decides that it is neglectful to treat our children’s ailments naturally with herbs or oils because they are not regulated by the FDA, and you love herbs and oils? What happens when we are told we cannot feed our children food we grow from our gardens or livestock we raise ourselves because the quality, safety, and nutritional value isn’t regulated? What happens if we are given a curfew for our children and told they have to be in bed by 9:00 every night because there is a concern that children of America are sleep deprived? Think that’s ridiculous? If we allow other parental rights to be taken, we are sending a message to our government that we don’t know what is best and we need someone to tell us.

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Are You Infected?

Fear is a parasite looking for a host. Once it finds it, it feeds and grows and multiplies. The byproduct of its feeding is anxiety. If left untreated it can paralyze the host. It consumes all the joy and happiness he/she would have otherwise experienced.

When riddled with parasitic fear, the emotions brought on by everything else are amplified. Things that normally wouldn’t bother a person seem too much to handle. People around them are somewhat irritated that the host is overwhelmed by seemingly insignificant things.

Fear can leave one feeling too weak and hopeless to even seek treatment. However the good news is that if the host can muster up enough strength, treatment can be effective. A first step in the process is seeking out an encourager who can help lead him/her in the right direction: a spouse, a pastor, a counselor. The most powerful treatment that cannot be overlooked however, is the Word of God.

Sometimes if the condition is advanced, it can take a little while for the treatment to take effect. The parasite has taken hold in the spirit and mind. Things may not change right away. The host may feel numb and think it is useless.   He/She may feel that it is less work to simply allow the parasite to grow and take control. However, the treatment will eventually be effective and the host can be free of the crippling, consuming parasitic fear to enjoy life with joy and happiness.

Be encouraged:

“I sought the Lord and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.” Psalm 34:4

“Call upon me in the day of trouble; I will deliver you, and you shall glorify me.” Psalm 50:15

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7


How Do You “Fair(Way)”

I said a phrase the other day that I don’t think I’ve ever said before. I’m not big on clichés ( I actually internally cringe sometimes when I hear people use certain ones), but I guess when you hear something enough, it can sometimes slip out of your own mouth.

I was feeling sorry for myself about something that didn’t work out the way I wanted it to, and I told my mom, “That’s just par for the course.”   I obviously said it to mean that things like that happen all the time to me, but it got me thinking.

Before I had all my kids, I played on a ladies golf league. I remember being ecstatic any time I got par on a hole. It is my understanding that par is the number of strokes the “experts” have determined a good golfer should need to sink the ball. We as a society have decided that “good” isn’t good enough. I’m all for trying your hardest to excel and be above average, but if the idea is to not be satisfied with “good,” what happens when good is the best you can do?

I think this idea is one of the things that sets us up for comparison and self-degradation. We say things like, “Yes, I know I’m a good mom, but I’m not good enough,” or, “Yes, I know I did a good job on that project, but it wasn’t good enough.”   We compare ourselves to others and think, “I’m good, but she/he is better,” or “I can do that, but not that.”

Yes, we need to be the best version of ourselves that we can. Yes, there are days we need to push ourselves a little harder. We don’t want to be complacent with average if we have the time and ability to be excellent. However, there are many nights that when I rack up my score for the day I feel that I am well above par (which is bad in golf, right). So, with that in mind, I try really hard to enjoy the days in which I am at least “on par.”

Perhaps, we are the best people to determine what par is for our own days. If we are constantly hitting well below, then maybe our par is set too high and we are ready for a lower number to strive towards. If we just can’t seem to ever get par, then maybe we have set our par too low and a little recalculation is needed. And maybe, just maybe, the problem isn’t so much with us personally and our abilities. Maybe the problem is that we need to look into new equipment.